Thursday, July 24, 2008

The Class

Technically everything with our meeting yesterday went great. I now know how to give my shots, I know how much to take of the ones they know that about (some doses will be determined later by my follicle growth) and I can see the big picture. Nick is comfortable with it and even managed to give me my first injection yesterday...only took him about two minutes of hesitations and saying he couldn't do it, but he came through in the end! All the important stuff was covered...but I left the class so annoyed. I am not a person who gets annoyed easily. I am honestly pretty laid back and can ignore the general slightly annoying population. Is this because I might be slightly annoying myself? I cannot rule it out. I know I am a loud person, and an outgoing person...could be an annoying person. Who knows. What I do know is that there was a VERY annoying person in our class yesterday. WAY beyond the annoyances of the average loud talking gal.

There were eight couples, so sixteen people. We were all in the waiting room and there was some general chit chat going on. People talking about how long they have been trying, about the way they freaked out a little with the GIANT box of medications, how they read every piece of information sent with the meds to make sure they were doing everything right...I was in my element. Loving every second of it. I honestly wasn't part of the conversation much, but Nick kept teasing me as we sat there, whispering what he thought I was thinking (Which I was), "I thought that too!!", "We are exactly the same!!" I laughed and told him I was excited about the group meeting. He said he was not...but what does he know. How could these people like us get annoying?

Then the actual meeting started. We all realized one girl was different than the rest of us. She was not there for infertility, she was there for a genetic disorder of which her and her husband are both carriers. A truly sad story, as far as I can tell. It isn't like we went around and gave our personal medical information to everyone. I can honestly say that I felt very bad for her and her husband, and that I cannot imagine the heart ache that they have been through. Now...that being said. There is a time and place for certain discussions. Clearly she did not understand this. Not five minutes into the class she began. She went ON AND ON about how EASY it is to get pregnant at home, and how her and her husband had NO problems with that. First month out of the gate, DONE! When she said it the first time, I was like, hmm...that is a little inconsiderate considering she is here with fourteen other people who have struggled with infertility to the point of beginning the final stages of help...but she went on. And on and on and on. She asked what the odds are of us getting pregnant at home. She announced (while the nurse was talking) How much it would SUCK to get pregnant at home after they did all this...wouldn't that be a kick in the teeth?? About how they will know the sex of the embryos they are implanting and plan to choose which sex they want. About how they don't want to implant to many because they KNOW that getting pregnant is easy as pie...

I truly do not think anyone in the history of time has ever gotten under my skin more. I am not a person who has a hard time when my friends or people I know are pregnant. I am thrilled for them, for the new life. I think that I hope I am next, but I do not EVER begrudge them and their happiness. This was different. I don't know if she wanted to make sure we all KNEW she didn't have infertility...maybe that was it. Everyone was uncomfortable, even the nurse leading the session. In hind sight she should not have been in the group class. She is completely different from us and has her own questions and issues. I understand that the doctor couldn't have know how outspoken she would be....It is just one of those things. One of those things that happens that reminds you that not everyone understands.


  1. How annoying!! You should of kicked HER in the teeth!!!

  2. Poop on her - may her new baby pee right in her face. May yours not!

    She is just a bump in the road. Keep smiling. You are not annoying.

  3. put it down to nervousness?

    I can't shut up when I'm nervous.

  4. That is really horribly insensitive to go on and on about it.

    You and I are on opposite sides of the fence in the whole fertility game. I have never had a problem getting pregnant. When I was pregnant with my first (he was an unexpected pregnancy) I was friends with someone who was desperately trying to conceive. She and her husband had spent thousands and thousands of dollars and years trying to get pregnant. I always felt guilty being pregnant around her and tried never to even talk about my pregnancy with her around. I don't know if she was uncomfortable or not... but I certainly was.

    I can't imagine not being sensitive to the struggle for other people.

  5. oh how annoying and terribly inconsiderate!

    you were such a good sport. i would have just gotten up and told her to get out. :P

  6. thank you for your comment on my blog. i will be checking in on you to see your status as you start ivf...very exciting!
    As for the annoying girl, well...hopefully you won't have to see her again!

  7. Thanks for stopping by my blog... so you know what my feeling is on this. I would have been just as irritated. There will always be people that "don't get it" or have their mind closed to others circumstances.

    Best of luck to you as you begin your cycle!

  8. I might have had to "accidentally" push her out of her chair or something. The nurse could have nipped that in the bud. Bah, Sorry you had to deal with that!

    I'm glad hubby managed to give the shot. A nice quick stab usually hurts less than a slow poke at the skin for the IM ones. I have an awesome stance that makes shots in the glutes feel like nothing if you have IM injections. Let me know if you want it!

  9. Ewwww...rudeness...I don't know how you didn't say anything. Good luck with everything!

  10. I agree with Boo's comment up there.

    Sounds like SHE is the one who deserved a "kick in the teeth". I seriously would have been tempted.

  11. At least no one brought their kid.

    I'm sure secondary IF sucks. But find a babysitter for pete's sake, don't bring your toddler to injection class!